Polyamory Part III

We all know that in any relationship it is compromises that we must make if we are ever to have a long lasting partnership with the love of our life. And it’s safe to say that in every relationship we can think back on a former one that had one aspect of it that was just plain better than the one we’re in. I don’t have to give examples well maybe I do but you all know what I mean. Bruce Jenner won the Decathlon all those years ago but he never broke a world record in any one of those events he competed in.  The same is true for the relationships we’ve had in  our life there is always someone that broke  a world record someone that listened more closely, kissed better, made love with more passion or just had more patience and tolerance. 

So how could one enhance their love life without resorting to sex, lies and videotape that resulted in your marriage  (the most common union) ending up on the cutting room floor? Maybe this Polyamory thing has some valid points in its favor. If you are turned off and not open to this line of thought read no further but if you are curious read on because if you just look at percentages the likelihood that at some point you don’t end up in divorce court are getting smaller and smaller. It will take a major paradigm shift to think like  polyamorists think but if you are going to have an affair wouldn’t it be better if everyone knew about it and approved of it in advance? Just think about the rippling effects that it might have on your primary relationship. Suppose you could be romantically attached to more than one lover and you didn’t have to be skulking down in the car seat when you were sneaking off to some motel. This is no small order by any means there are many hurdles Polyamory presents but some of the gifts it can bestow on the primary partnership can bring us  happiness we could never conceive of had we stuck to monogamy just like the ducks do. In the next installment we will talk about the Bonobo a member of the ape family that behaves much like us humans except when it comes to sex. Well they are animals but so are we.  We forget that sometimes I think.  

Polyamory Continued

What one thing besides money has been the downfall in most marriages or primary partnerships? Can we agree that it is sex? Whether it’s not having any conjugal relations or more importantly the infidelity on the part of one or both of the partners. As we have all seen in our personal lives or those of our friend’s lives infidelity lies at the heart of most broken unions.  Most affairs are begun in secret and these clandestine meetings only foster lies, heartbreak and so often divorce.  And as the statistics show affairs  leave two broken families.  Suppose there was an alternative to lies and deceit?  What might say you then?  Again let me say that this form of a relationship is not intended for all people but it might be a conversation you could  have with your significant other before you venture out on that lonely road which is a secret affair.  And by the way it rarely remains secret for long as we have seen time and time again.  

More to come on this topic.  

Polyamory

What follows is not intended to be an endorsement of any kind. 

Have you ever heard this term? More specifically referring to a lifestyle?  I would suspect that you probably have not but if you have before you prejudge it as being too outside the box listen up it has some qualities like monogamous fidelity that you might not have considered. First off Polyamory is means and I quote from wikipedia, which I wouldn’t do normally because the checks and balances to its content have not been established by recognized outside sources.  Here is what it says in any event: Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.  

So let’s do one thing and put all the obvious objections like jealousy, it’s against the laws or nature and or God and it’s down right crazy aside and take a look at what we can learn from people that not only live in this lifestyle but flourish in honesty and for the true practitioners of this way of life have conquered the manufactured emotion of jealousy.  

To Be Continued