Just My Opinion

If more people would spend time in the opposite view point taking the other side in an argument they are fully associated with the world might just be a different place. It’s not easy taking the opposing view especially in politics because heaven forbid that the politico on the other side of the aisle just might have strength in their opinion. As Americans we are too perfunctory and dismissive to even entertain the idea that a liberal or a conservative might have something of value to say. 

When I was a boy liberal meant that you were open to contrarian ways of thinking and you were committed to listening rather than judging. As a middle of the roader I feel liberals have become just the opposite of their predecessors and are quick to judge and worse yet ridicule anyone that doesn’t see their point of view. 

Conservatives for their part are too busy railing against the other side as to what they aren’t doing instead of what is being done right. Some conservatives might even exclaim that liberals have everything wrong. 

Truth is no view point possesses all the answers and if only Republicans were required to argue for the exact opposite of what they believe they just might hear what they had been closed off to. And the Democrats   ought to think about harkening back to leaders like JFK and reconnect with what the word liberal truly means. 

When Love Takes Over Part II

The way to a woman’s heart is paved with emotion and a nice physique and good brain help but her mind and body open when a man tries to empathize with his woman rather than trying to understand her. 

Love becomes a sticking point in a man-woman relationship however when the female of the species insists on the premise that “He should just know”.  From a man’s perspective trying to read a woman’s mind is like trying to solve the Rubik’s cube blindfolded. In a movie White Men Can’t Jump (1992) Rosie Perez’s character tells Woody Harrelson that she is thirsty. He like a good BF hands her a glass of water. She says NO that’s not what she wants him to do. What she does want is for him to acknowledge her thirst rather than quench it.  

Men are from Mars and Women from Venus is not just a marketing phrase because how they each perceive communication albeit in the same solar system are still different planets. If a man can become Kreskin and read minds his love will be blissful throughout but since most mortals are not so blessed he will probably be stuck with the plague of asking his lover to confide in him what exactly it is she wants. The solutions that come quick to the mind of man are the one’s to avoid.  

More on this subject….

When Loves Takes Over

You may be in your right mind but then again you might not. Giving up the wheel when you’re used to doing the driving is not an easy thing. Having to trust province to guide you from making illegal turns and navigating instincts in collision is not for the faint of heart.  

How do you know you’re in love though? Is it physical, emotional, spiritual or historical? My guess is that it’s a combination of all four but which one do we trust the most and which one the least?  Usually we lead with the law of attraction first because without the physical connection affairs of the heart simply don’t get off the ground. Not at first anyway. My thoughts are that the chemistry factor of love is just about the most unreliable.  Don’t get me wrong everyone needs the human touch that excites our nerve endings but the truth of the matter is that we can be attracted to so many people but that doesn’t mean a relationship is possible or even desirable. And I am sure there are many stories in the naked city that didn’t start off physical and ended up smoking hot later on down the line.  

Friends first is probably the safest route to a lasting love but when a man hears a woman wants friendship it usually means in his mind that he is the designated utility outfielder unlikely to see much action. I think though that’s where most men go wrong and if they could just be persistent and consistent the more likely that strategy will pay off if he is truly not just out to bed her.  For the woman wants passion but if a man leads with understanding and avoids trying to fix things and just listens four times more than he speaks he’s more likely to build a foundation that won’t topple once the rains come.  

More on this subject soon as the spirit moves me.  When loves takes over.