All I Want for Christmas Is.....

All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth! I remember that song as a child growing up in Queens. I forgot who sang it. I could google it perhaps but what I really want for Christmas is unconditional faith. I figure if I have that I don’t need anything emotionally or financially because whatever comes my way with unconditional faith I can handle. And since the future is unknown I can live with that.  

Man Up

If I hear this once more in the 21st Century I will have reverse peristalsis. Cease and desist with this 20th Century phrase. Stop telling the male gender to Man Up!  Don’t you just hate it guys when 53% of the world is trying to tell the other 47% they have to grow a pair? 

If you want us to be men stop trying to pretend you have a different configuration than God conceived you with. I am sick of the male being emasculated and then being told how to be a man. God does it piss me off.  Oh and this thing about dragging your maiden name with you when you get married? It’s your fathers name remember!  

If you could scratch them you would too!  

Jenny Little

 

 

I thought I might title this entry: Attack of the 50 Foot Woman but thought better of it so as not to scare anyone away. That title was actually a sci-fi  movie of the same name dated 1958 with probably the worst special effects captured on celluloid film. The heroine grown to mythic proportions is transparent throughout because CGI hadn’t been invented just yet.

Jenny on the other hand has quite genuine “special effects” resplendent with the talent of some of the best spin instructors I’ve experienced at my former home at Equinox in New York. Ms. Little displays the science of Dana Mancini who was remarkable for making class an “inside job” and the athleticism of Rocky who took my physiology “once step beyond” what I thought I was capable of and of course the Queen of spin Kristen James whose charm and charisma sparked my “afflatus” in many of my writings here on the net.

Jenny today this Sunday reignited my blue flame which I have to say I thought had just run out of propane. Five and a half years of spinning yarns literally about spin class had me thinking that this series was just done. What else could I say? Well maybe a new chapter new geography a new face might just put a new spin on my flywheel. I could complain that the Spinner bikes at 24 Hour Fitness are a bit long in the tooth with no onboard computer or creature comforts I had grown accustomed to back in Woodbury but Jenny Little made me forget that at rides end my butt hurt like the Dickens as her repertoire was positively ingenious for its complexity but simplicity in her delivery. Tempo, a driving rhythm, short breaks and a discogrpahy that was silky. Off the bike and on the bike Jenny moves with a fluidity of a Gene Kelly and the strength of a decathalete she is.

 

I will be back Jenny and thanks for bringing me back to something I really love.

 

The Best Things In Life Are Free

How is it that surrounded  in the force fed air of the  material world do we forget that the best things in life are free. It's not in  the trappings of bulging bank accounts does happiness exist. For money can bring us the rentals of luxury but when God calls us home none of those trinkets accompany us  into the ground or into the urn from the crematorium.
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The best things in life are free. The human touch, a kiss, a held hand, a glance from a loved one and a knowing smile. These gifts we share everyday and no price tag can be pulled from them.
When we cry for help and its answered I know that the best things in life are free.

The Silver Lining

I once saw a Disney movie as a kid starring Haley Mills* called Pollyanna and I know that to go through life thinking things will all turn out right might be unrealistic to some. Bad things do happen but that doesn’t mean that we should ever try to anticipate them. Life on life’s terms will always be part of the journey. And when those things like personal tragedy, death and dissolution of relationships threaten our very happiness take solace that there is always a silver lining. 

My brother in law had lost touch with his family for over a decade and as it often happens in relationships it was over something trivial which he couldn’t even recall in the present day. Life being temporary he lost his father and through that sadness he came to be with his family once again and now they talk everyday. No matter what happens the true message emerges we just have to have faith and patience that it will show up eventually. That silver lining. 

* Hayley Mills imdb.com

Intimacy

What are the qualities of intimacy we share with another human being? What comes to mind first is of course physical intimacy. It manifests itself in many forms from as trivial as casual sex to the deeper intimacies we share with those we love. The act of sex is a gift of procreation but our Higher Power saw fit to attach the pleasure principle, which drives each and every one of us to different degrees at different times in our lives. 

In order to commune with another on this level requires a mindset that encompasses all the emotions that are beyond the physical satisfaction our bodies offer to each other. After all making love is but a small part of our day it is the other 96% of our lives that improprieties in our sex life wreak havoc that can leave us with fear, frustration, anger, mistrust and misunderstanding. We need to know all the ramifications the ground rules and expectations with our partner. We cannot assume we know based on the court of public opinion. The assumption of “you should know’ doesn’t hold in the 21st Century we need to communicate with our partner about exclusivity and what constitutes fidelity and what infidelity is. The answer may seem obvious to some but not necessarily. 

I heard somewhere the expression that “a kiss is not a contract”. Too many of us assume that once we go to bed with someone we have an instant relationship. Intercourse becomes the blanket we choose to cover ourselves under that claims we now have intimacy with this person. We may have been intimate but intimacy requires a lot more effort than completing a successful sex act. More…

Say Goodbye

When we depart this world we leave behind the love we made for those that remain.