Jealousy

Jealousy can drive a man to drink. Well maybe not literally for this alcoholic but it can do a number upside your head. Have you ever stopped to think that when you are in the throes of jealousy that you’re not in love with the person you’re feeling this God-awful emotion about? It’s almost like trying to keep your eyes open when you sneeze you just can’t do it. 

Jealousy is one of the most selfish emotions we are stricken with. Some might say if you don’t feel jealous then you really don’t love that significant other. That might be true but love is supposed to be selfless not selfish. When you’re jealous you can’t see straight and your self-esteem has taken a hit too. Some wear jealousy like it’s a God given right or it’s expected. I think it’s something we have to unlearn. Not easy I know but how can we love unconditionally if jealousy rears its ugly head? Answer is we really can’t because true blue love is pure not laden with hidden agendas, conditions or what ifs.  

Jealousy is most likely instinctual I am not sure what the studies say about it but ask yourself how good it feels when you feel it. Not very good I suspect. We become blind and irrational and we can even say things we might regret later. Jealousy can cause a lot of collateral damage as well and leave us with a broken heart for no good reason.

So what is it that we can do to unlock this ball and chain from our psyche? I don’t know but I do know that it starts with a paradigm shift in thinking. It starts with loving us first. As the old cliché goes if we don’t love ourselves how can we expect anyone else to? Stands to reason if we employ this strategy we might have a chance at taming the savage beast called jealousy.